jus to tell all..

Yest 12th OF JUNE was child labor day…

irony…

Hii Leks
Good Job dear.. Um quite impressed wd ur work.. want 2 read more of Ur work
cheers

hi lek,
i think child abuse is one of the most serious problem,ur ariticle is really good,and basically its drive our attention on the consequence and the problem faced by these children,ithink we all have to understand this and do whatever we can do on our level to save these beautiful flowers,
its good to see u that u have started this way,we all friend are with u,and we will or should do to bring awareness in mass to understand the important of well bieng of these god best creature.

a coincidence that my name is the protagonist’s name..

But by the grace of all i was spared of all that the child sufferd from..

The writer has done a good job and i read the comments, whatever was missing has been complemented thru the comment box..

I too hope lekshmi, you will end all this with a good conclusion on everything that was spoken off..

i give you five on five..
go on.!

hey aashu

i ran and came to chek as to who the AASHu was who had commented on my post

and yes, i will do full justification to the post when i have all the responses here…

I will try and finish off the article’s lacking points here.

Divhya dear its not like that may b u havnt seen ppl who do protest against d evil things happning around thm bt i hav
they r not much but they r some , and believe me it makes a diffrnc and thats d other side WE alwaz have a good and a bad perspective to a particular thing

@Leks
Very true kids in orphanages nd child help lines are the very epitomes os love and forgivness.
Even i hav visited child help lines and spent time with em..those kids r so very innocent that its even not possible to describe there innocnce in words.

They want to study but they cant they r not let to do so , they want to play but there childhood is snatched away frm em and in help lines when they juss given a chance to live der life they do njoi ive seen tht happiness on there face and whn they r counselled they cry if u see both sides of same kid believe me it gets vry diffclt to control ur emotions

See those kids they just njoi WRITING THERE NAMES ON SLATES .. as if thats d best thing they’ve eva done , degree of innocence is superlative here.

I mean its not tht diffclt to find an hour for such children.Evry1 must b having Child Help Lines near by there homes DO VISIT and spend sometime with em.Its realy worth it

It can b a start

hey laksmi.. dat was wonderful ! great work.. but certain sentences din’t jus make any sense(sorry if i was rude )..
Aashu was sad and desperate at what was happening to her .But how can you say that she wanted to die.??..as mentioned in this sentence-’Aashu now wished only one thing – TO DIE!’.. You can’t expect a 6 or 7 year old girl to know anything about death.. at the same time, a girl of this age would definitely talk bout this 2 her parents ‘cos dats a 6 yr. old’s innocence.. she would definitely not be knowin what the hell shez undergoin.. only dat something wrong is happening with her.. ..
The rest everythin was wonderful.. and this a beautiful way in whoch you could present this issue.. Gud goin lakshmi.. KUDOS

Hey gayu

yes, i know there are certain things which could have put forth in a better manner!
but hey all readers, this is in no way misleading.
and i want to stress that!

somewere a small child did undergo smthng like this..

i do not know for sure about all kids but maybe i was a hyper kid because in 2nd grade, i with my two frnds had a plan to kill ourslvs coz mama papa had scolded us
i swear that this fact is true..though that was very innocent and manipulated by all we saw around us..

i think when i could think that..

any 6 year old could do…

@RAHUL

i think you have put up a brilliant thought there..:)

i really hope all would read this…

This is a well crafted article.
It is well dealt with, with the appropriate emphasis on the seriousness of it…i liked the fact that you have given the perspective of the kid and at the same time one can find a third person talking. And then theres you who is talking. So there are three voices, conveying the different point of views of looking at the same issue!!! well done!!!

Hey…

this is ironically damn movin…. feel bad for te child… and ye have a gr8 intensity (rather imagnation) in writing this…. Cheers!!

hey… first, the issue u have taken up is very sensitive and thank god or not, we are in a position to say tat child abuse in bold is a topic tat is well discussed and well debated on.. in an elite situation. wen i say elite, i mean tat d ppl who r busy discussing it are in a high position who can actually do smthng for d cause. Like we know, tulir is hell bent on providing counselling session to d affected, but i dont know any other org tat is keen on PREVENTING such an ironical occurance. In a country where pre marital sex is a taboo and including sex ed in syllabus is a grouse against our culture, we need more aam janata coming to d forefront for d cause. lets not criticise ur writing for u have written with a cause in mind. lets concentrate more on providing a solution… and a solution cannot be thought of if u and i are sitting in front of comp and writing away to glory… as a journalist andas an individual, we al have responsibilities. lets start from now…

since CHILD ABUSE is not defined properly, i shall take d opportunity to put forward another cause… a kiddo,.. of 19 yr has topped iit entrance in AP. he has borrowed books frm a lending lib and is working to fill up his due amount. he now doesnt have money to come to IIT MADRAS for his entrance… he promises to pay us al back after he is settled in life.. to top it al, his parents have no idea wat theirs son s done. they r jus happy he s made them proud. So… am sending this link… and try to sort out or ppl whioo read this post… do smthng fior this chap..

http://www.ndtv.com/convergence/ndtv/story.aspx?id=NEWEN20080052137&ch=6/8/2008%2012:51:00%20PM

and for ur article… i feel tat if i rate this, i wil jus be doing it for d heck of it. i know u as a persona nd u know how i wil rate it… so… keep up d good work.

love
lux

now lemme talk something about a solution which has been talked about so much but yet has not been properly implemented..

SEX EDUCATION !

if any parents are reading this:) i want you to understand the real meaning of this phrase and the work involved. I got to know it from various seminars and a practical session i myself attended..

it shudnt be a taboo anymore..

In sex education, there are various steps.

it starts with orientation for parents,then there are intensive workshops for teachers.
it is only after ALL THIS that the children are spoken to and that too in groups.

i also read it that the words ‘sex’ or ‘abuse’ are never used, ‘personal safety’ is the phrase accounted for.

Children have strong instincts and true to this, they are taught about how to tell from a friendly pat to a ‘dirty’ touch.

so i guess this will give a small idea bout what is all the hype about sex education..

i have to tell one thing to all the parents who think that it is a taboo..

taboos are man made, if we need the safety of our child, we need to see what is sane and what is insane..

let go of all the prejudices and work for the betterment…:)

@lak

I understand and thank you so much

@admin

Lak did not know that links shudnt be posted:) so i am sorry on her behalf…and as she told me that it has passed moderation…i guess it is fine..

jus wanted to clear it…:)

Hey Anjali…

I din know dat u cud rite soooo wel…and argue for ur points better dan riting..
Well, a very good argumentative topic over all and I am surprised dat u r attracting so many readers at dis emerging stage as a journalist…dey say, success of a person is measured by d nos of critics he/she has..and u got hell lotta critics gal, and dis proves u r doing gr8..keep up d gud work..an always remember.. It is easier to be critical than correct….

I seriously donno wat to comment,. Cos in a country where one girl/woman is raped every 15 secs…where cops rape innocent women….where d nos of crimes emergin outta passion r scaling up drastically … where justice is not only blind, but also deaf, lame and
Atrocious, sexual abuse to children is jus another chapter…I personally believe dat, no matter how hard we try, no matter how wel justice is delivered…dis is crime gonna prevail…u, me and all des ppl who ve an insight effort to stop it, can only prevent or stop it to a CERTAIN EXTENT…bt on d other hand d journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step(I ve nt lost hope cmptly)….. I feel dat am in a very insecure environment, for d children who r victimized, for d innccent ppl in my country…
R V SEEIN A CHANGE GUYS????

On ur writin….dis is of course a good piece.. nicely written..
Bt sweets, nxt time u write, put in the xtra effort to convince dos critics..make dem feel wat u wanna rite cos as many of dem didn get d crux of it,,wat u wanted to convey…
Great going gal.. I RATE U 4.5 OUTTA 5 for dis article….keep me posted if u rite sum more of des..

@kiran.

somethings bring tears to the eyes

@gunz

thanks abhi

no..jus a writer…who wishes to learn and change things with the help from all

well, maybe one day we all will reform the society of all these evils…

cheers to us

I guess article is now heading to a conclusion

well beautifuly lead by leks nice thoughts overall it ws realy gud to see how diffrnt ppl think bout a certain issue r i shud say a curse to our society and i hope by reading al this atleast few will get bit more avtive nd work around to show there care nd concern towards d children going thorugh certain condtns.

I visited d nearest child help line today actualy was thinking bout it frm past 2 weeks but this article realy made me do something but was not feeling like doin it but finaly i decided to go for it and am glad i met some more young kids today it was a gr8 experience once again

These kids who r suffering frm diffrnt kinda “CHILD ABUSE’s” juss need some time nd affection.

Making a child SMILE is realy a thing u wud love to do and u will trzr such moments freva

KUDOS to LEKS

Keep up the good Work EVEN SKY IS NOT THE LIMIT fr u dear

And ppl plz dont only read and comment DO SOMETHING

Hey i jus came across the article… an ya tot it would be jus another blog.. but yea its somthin different.. the content was impeccable and the use of words were good… i think the topic is really the need of the hour for this society… i wonder how could u conceive such an idea an script it so soulfully… and i hope this should reach greater heights.. my heartfelt wishes for ur success

hey this is Lyndon’s friend….n yea he gave me thd link told me to read this article .. i too jus tought tht it would be some normal topic….. but the topic tht u hav chosen is really good.. n its put in a real gud way…

anyways keep it up…….

@lyn

Thank you

@reetu,

thanks to lyn who gave u d link and u for readin it..:)

I already wrote a comment, I don’t kno how it got ommited

Anyway, it is not hard to repeat : )

Leks, you will go a long way, you dream big and you are working hard : )

And to top it all, I find you humble and I guess innocent too, your usage of words shows.

Keep going leks…

@manasi
i myself cant see many of d comments…:)

thank you

Where is the comment i posted> :-O

anyway, miss social reformer…

I guess you will continue talking about this topic on the new forum you have started smwr else

all the best…

Great blog..good luck…

@varshe..

nice comment..ha ha

you talked well about the various other things related to child sexual abuse , just read in some comments…

i think , your comments gave a lot of info.

the article was touching and the info meaningful…

so alltogether this whole page is helpful..
good that i revisited the page and thus read all the comments.

best of luck..

I am happy that i could do ‘atleast’, this much…
i takd to two parents who read this article and i am happy to say that my talks with them were amazing..:)

i cant see ALL MY COMMENTS which i had painstakingly written to explain about the abuse on a whole…about the ways of prevention , the abuser and the care to be given to children

i do not know what has happened..:O

There are some comments which i wrote and have been ommited( i dunno how).

this is the gist of them..

I had talked about the various ways ( very simple and practical ones) in which a child shud be told to act!

AVOID any lonley places.over frndly adults and ppl who touch them in a way they dont want to be..

RESIST as much as they can the advances of such an adult.

REPORT to dre parents as to whatever happens , any uncomfortable incident..

KID shud be taut all these by none other than their parents…the compassion and understanding between a parent and child can help us overcome a lot of this problem.

the mantra to teach kids-

#Avoid locations of higher risk-like lonely places
#Be confident and assertive in body language, pedophiles usually attack shy and vulnerable kids.

#Try and resist abuse by screaming and running away
#always tell trusted adults of attempted abuse or excessive friendliness ..

And above all..any abused child shud be given COMPLETE SUPPORT>.the last thing a child shud feel is that he/she is d one to blame…a child who has been abused has already undergone a lot of trauma..and has a scar…

NO, he/she shud neva feel that he was in any way responsible for him being hurt..

counselling is a MUST…no matter what the age of the child..

I do not know as to how more long any more ppl will come over to comment

but, i have made a lot of frnds here who alongh with me have started another forumto continue our work

hope to see you all there..

I am nt CLOSING anythng…

as long as the evil exists, we will fight..

first to prevent, then to protect and then to eradicate….we shall..

a five for the humane touch to the whole issue..

you have opened a box of ideas..

we shall implement them…sure…

Thank you shradhha

even the recent comment of yours about d simple yet mandatory things to teach a child are really worthy..

you complemented the article..

the lacking of the article has been refurnished here…

good.

thums up leks

nowdays we cant expect you to write anythng but social issues

but we are proud of that…keep going

all have used up all the words which could be used to comment..so i just give u a THUMS UP

Thank you deeps

I request ALL of u to not stop with just commenting or rating here..

my main aim to make ppl realise this horror on the face of earth ….sigh..

we usually do not give much importance to children being taut the things i told above, thinking that its no big deal.

but it is…it REALLY is..

i wish more parents wud read this..

that dsnt mean d child shud be kept away from all the adults who care for them..NO..it means that d parents or for that fact all shud keep their eyes and ears open and be always on the guard and ALERT..

let none ruin the innocence of a child anymore..
let nobody have to write an article like me again..
let this demon be slayed forever…

We will anjali..we will..we stand together..:)

CHEERS TO UR SPIRIT>>

good that you added more info…

yes, this time i visited the page i got much more things to talk about..

true, children shud be taught certaing things by parents..

BUT..children will be children..

as u said, guardians have a VERY big responsibility.. in this case…:)

Not just parent, also teachers and other ppl who are directyly involved with the childre

kudos Ms.Lekshmi

i am a teacher and that too in a primary school, i simply loved your ideas and the simplicity in which you presented it…

You have made us feel touched rather than feeling angry…

no matter if you win or not, you have made all of us take decisions to protect our children..

pretty touching,thought provoking and heart wrenching somewhere…

all the very best for your future articles…

hey lekshmi…
can see that u really feel strongly bout the issue of child abuse…and think the post is v well-written coz its disturbing to read this.
read some responses about why would a child hide the pain – and I think its possible, not every child might open up about the pain, or some might have been put in a tight spot by the molestor. depends on the child.
but think you should have mentioned somewhere that boys and girls are victims of csa. A lot of poeple associate csa with the girl child, and this piece sort of doesn’t clarify anything about that.
Also, think that the piece is very very emotionally written, so to some readers, it might seems exaggerative and lose the impact. thats merely my opinion though.
its v obvious u feel strongly bout the issue n really nicely put

gr8 article…….. m not qualified 2 rate it.

I want to cry!!!! very touchin indeed.

lets do smthn abt it lowe… afterall we are journalists…

how abt a campaign? luks like u already have a good team. a simple rally or lets hit the nearest village n give em all a lil lesson….. what say? lets do it when we r here!

I didnt know this much would happen over an article:)

@all.

as mentioned above..

over a discussion that hapnd jus now..

we are going to start a CAMPAIGN…it will take alot of things…but we have STaRTED>.already

cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeersss

a moment i waited for..

You have already reached many ppl
Keep me in the list…:)

You dream big..dont you?

CAMPAIGN! …

Now this is growing BIG!

What are you planning? DO elaborate here to anywhere where you can, you will surely find a lot of readers and ppl who will want to work..

Now this is what we call a ‘START”.

ppl who say that a single article cant do anything..:)

READ THIS>>

I SHUD say thanks to this forum, i myself dint know this wud grow BIG…

but hey, even now its small..miles to go b4 we sleep..:)

we have started a small gang which will start as the core atleast till we plan the PR and rope in NGOs and i credible ppl like counsellors and NGOs how much ever we can? we SHALL…

it may take a LONG TIME…but hey, for things to happen , there shud be a start…right??

its HERe…cheeeeeeeeers to AALL OF US

I really dont know as to how successful i have been here in speaking about the issue..

But now when i read all the comments and think of the future, i stick to my words..-’there’s a lot of hope’

With due apologies for all the lacking in the material i posted and with a promise to improve and prove better next time..:)