No Time To Repent
It is neither an article nor a story, but these are my feelings, in which you may not be interested, but I would urge you to continue reading. My relationship with my mom was very critical as any young adult girl would have. I always misunderstood my mom like hell, but was she worth my ignorance and rude tantrums? I will be revealing this story because you are with me in this journey and I feel that you should know what the actual meaning of life is and what exactly mother is. It’s well said that whatever you see has two sides, two people may see same thing, but they analyse and evaluate it differently, because different people have different perceptions. Same thing happened with me too.
I always wanted to live life on my own terms. I tried to do everything, what mom didn’t like. She didn’t like me roaming with those frivolous boys and stupid girls, who always lied to their parents and slept with their colleagues for few bucks to fill their pockets. We did party every night and bunked school and lectures since I grew up. I always tortured and lied to my mom.
I can define my relation with my Mom with a single word, HATE. I hated her because she stopped me from doing everything wrong, yes wrong! She tried to stop me at that time too, when I became a well known doper in my college, I did all this simply because I wanted to hurt her. My mom loved me a lot and I hated her a lot throughout her life! I don’t know why. What was the reason to hate her so much?
It may be because of that childhood memory, which is blurred and still not clear. That memory still haunts me and makes my senses go feeble and blocks my mind. Dad passed away when I was just 3 years old. I was 6 years, when one day I saw my mother going with some other man at night. It was raining heavily and street poured out like well.
I said: “Mom wait, brother is waiting at home and he wants you to be with him, he is not well, he needs you”.
My brother had severe fever and he needed mom. But she didn’t listen, and moved on. My brother died. I blamed mom for that. If she would have stayed and treated my brother with some medicines and called some doctor, then he would have been saved. I loved my brother a lot, he was the only possession left with me.
Days passed by and I still couldn’t find who that man was. I tried to ask, but she turned mute. Mom was not well one day and she suffered from cancer. I called doctor but it was of no use because it was too late. She hid her disease from me since years. At night when she was suffering from heavy bloody vomiting, somehow I felt a strange satisfaction in watching her suffer.
I felt, she is paying price of killing my brother. Now my brother’s soul would get some peace. Suddenly a man came out of the limousine and walked towards my mother; she tried to speak but couldn’t talk because of the blood that totally blocked her mouth. She tried to stop that man as if not to tell anything but the man didn’t listen. He knew my attitude towards my mom. Before my mom could utter anything, she died. The man continued:
“She picked a bud thrown away; many years back from the unknown street of Goa and brought it home. Many people stopped her but she pledged that day that she will turn that bud into a beautiful flower that will make all the scenes of her life beautiful and extraordinary. She knew that her son was ill. She tried to arrange the doctor and medicines, but I came in between, to show her one more bud, which was lying down on the same street.
She came with me and picked up that bud to give her a life, which would be worth living. She did that to save that bud from the paws of those hungry lions that will grind that bud under their feet within no time. You were the earlier bud and now my adopted daughter is the second bud.”
I was taken aback! This is what my mother was; this is what the word mother means! Life didn’t give me a single chance to understand her and when I got the chance, she was no more. There is no time to repent now!
Authored By Khushboo Agarwal, India
Tags: relationship
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June 11th, 2008 at 9:56 am
a very touching story.seems like as if author has poured all of her emotions into it.truly appealing
i am sure after going through this story every one will feel a lot more attached to their parents….
June 11th, 2008 at 10:00 am
Good story, and it should be appreciated
June 11th, 2008 at 10:13 am
sometimes life do not give chance to think about and we are left with no answers.we shud take lesson from the kind of tale which khushboo has bring to us ……….
June 11th, 2008 at 10:49 am
Most truth r so naked tht ppl feel sorry 4 them & cover them up,aleast a litle bit..but an apology is the super glue of life. It can repair just about anything
The biterest tears shed ovr graves r 4 words left unsaid & 4 deeds left undone!
so we shud not hurt feelings of our parents as they r the one who hav seen true colors of world and will always think good for us..
full marks for author as she brought tears in my eyes…keep it up
June 11th, 2008 at 10:56 am
i’ll be honest… a real good piece; 1 death lesser, would be picture perfect!! keep in up dear
June 11th, 2008 at 11:21 am
Those not caring for parents at the right time, have to repent at ease
June 11th, 2008 at 11:27 am
it’s really a touching piece, it’s like reading a honest confession from this writer, you sometimes misunderstand the person who loves you and by the time you realize their true value you have lost everything that is near and dear to you in life, a story that needs a lot of appauldes.
June 11th, 2008 at 11:55 am
a touching piece khushboo..
i read a piece which was on the same lines when i was a small child in a magazine called ‘target’…even then i had thought of the same issue’ we do not get time to repent at times’…
June 11th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
good one
June 11th, 2008 at 1:56 pm
i can just call it a “Master Piece”…..itz jzt like sum one painted me nd my life on a plan paper …..it made my eyes “wet” sitting in a cyber cafe ….. i called my dad on the spot and said “sorry dad”…sorry for my every step which hurted you dad…….”I love you dad” ….and he just gone silent ….thanx to the author miss “Khushbu Aggarwal” who made me realise my mistakes towords my parents….thanx alot….”god bless u” and best of luck for your future…..
June 11th, 2008 at 2:10 pm
its jzt awesum…..itz just the truth of every persons life ….thanx to the author for bringing it to our minds……thanx alot…
June 11th, 2008 at 2:29 pm
@ Anuj :O
i can just call it a “Master Piece”…..itz jzt like sum one painted me nd my life on a plan paper …..it made my eyes “wet” sitting in a cyber cafe ….. i called my dad on the spot and said “sorry dad”…sorry for my every step which hurted you dad…….”I love you dad” ….and he just gone silent ….thanx to the author miss “Khushbu Aggarwal” who made me realise my mistakes towords my parents….thanx alot….”god bless u” and best of luck for your future…..
…………………………………………………………………………thankx anyways,,,,,,
June 11th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
@ All,,
thnkx for your appreciation ,,,,
khush..
June 11th, 2008 at 2:33 pm
thanx author.. u did a good job …….best of luck for your future…
June 11th, 2008 at 2:41 pm
anxiety and agony towards loved ones are so common..when someone we love doesnt act as per our wishes,it hurting us,more often.We will revel in hatred,without trying to know the other side of the story..but when we come across the truth..its too late for saying even a sorry….
June 11th, 2008 at 3:00 pm
awsome story…….evry persons real lfe story……will give u ten out of ten khooshboo
June 11th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
it’s really a touching story ,first i hearty congratulation on your success.the greatest virtue of a good author is to translate reality into imagination for the people.the author of this story done a great job. Thanx to the author miss “Khushbu Aggarwal” who realised to those person who make mistakes in own life..thanx alot….”god bless u” and best of luck for your future…..
June 11th, 2008 at 4:30 pm
A very - very touching story ! Sometimes we misunderstand someone’s feeling towards us, especially of our parents. but parents are next to God who always in every situation thinks of our good.
Best of luck for your future…Miss KHUSHBO, A great story!!
June 11th, 2008 at 5:05 pm
well….wat 2 say….while reading the stuff it waz like…no other but i myself is describing the story.Author got d irony in her linez…story makes me feel dat story iz not written by a professional and experienced writer…but by a child who did really suffered everythin written…it got the realizm and common fact of life that often happens with lot of galz and guys around…..oyee khush muje nhi pata tha ki tu aiseee bhi hai…
June 11th, 2008 at 5:05 pm
Gud Wrk bt Can be Much better. The suspence n drama can be increased n More character can also be added. It was on mother bt her touch was less, u can add somthing more,
dear work hard next time
it seems as u have devoted less time on it. if u r involve in some wrk than provide it with ur full time
June 11th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
dear sis kush……….!!
really u r simply gr8th….!!!!
sachhi
June 11th, 2008 at 7:51 pm
OOOOhhhhhh,,,seems like I am dead and 7th as well as 8th post are giving me shradhanjali…..”The Tribute TO Miss Khush” …………apart from these two,,,thnkx all…….
June 11th, 2008 at 7:56 pm
I appreciate the efforts done by the writer and the thought she has used in her story. I am sure it is the real worth to read. Thanks Khusboo for the wonderful story.
June 11th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
OMG ,,,,,,,,,,,, ek aur khushboo …… :O bus karoo yaarrooo,,, I guess, I should have given the name khush.
Plssss admin its not a spam,,,,trust me…….
he is one of my idiot friend,,,tried to tease me,,,,,,, silly stupid….. 
June 11th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
starting was bit filmy, must b inspired frm sm hollywood flick but the latter part was simply awsm…its been too tragic but on the whole it luks melodrama rarely to be find in bestsellers.
regards,,,,bhai..
June 12th, 2008 at 4:44 am
it tells us that we should just not criticise a person without thoroughly understanding the person…touching story
June 12th, 2008 at 5:37 am
i dont know if this is a true story or a piece of fiction…..but still…..
hope the youngsters takes a lesson and behave rationally with their elders…..
June 12th, 2008 at 5:37 am
i dont know if this is a true story or a piece of fiction…..but still…..
hope the youngsters takes a lesson and behave rationally with their elders…..
June 12th, 2008 at 7:26 am
sounds like a typical tear-jerker movie…… well written though….
the last thing anyone wanna listen to is “This is all fictitious”
June 12th, 2008 at 7:45 am
i completely agree with piyush.,.no offence but.
June 12th, 2008 at 8:49 am
well written…
June 12th, 2008 at 9:18 am
it is touching but it is written in a fictitous manner..
It has been rushed in parts and thus flows hapzhardly..
I am extremely sorry as it may be your real life story…
You can make it better in the article by making it more slow in its flow so that one can grasp it well.
June 12th, 2008 at 10:26 am
very nice n touchy story.i think this inspire to those who dnt care bout thier parent feeling n hurt them without understanding them.the writer must be appreciated for writing such kind inspiring story.very gudd
June 12th, 2008 at 11:53 am
To call it a story is to HURT that mother s soul …these all are emotions ………….flowing n flowing…..i can t imagine the sadness of that mother…..no body can………just say…………..NAMASTE
June 12th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
A deep heart touching story!
Well, its true sometimes life doesn’t give second chance to repent. But Its part of life. Sometimes We have to pay for the whole life.
June 12th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
A well crafted story, Nice job!
June 12th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
Very nicely written and very touching….
good work !!!!!!!!
June 12th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
@all
Thankx for your criticism and suggestions and appreciation
June 12th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
well the judges should not ignore this little bud over here (khushboo)
she just came up with a good concept and has carefully scripted this story
but some X factor is missing which divides normal writers from professionals
just keep on the good work some day this bud will blossom into an expert writer
June 12th, 2008 at 5:37 pm
waaaw…. gr8
it really touched my heart…. u roch Khush
keep up the good work!!!
June 12th, 2008 at 5:43 pm
@jagdish
You roch?????? :O thankx anyways
June 12th, 2008 at 5:45 pm
*you rock Khush!!!
(sorry 4 typing error)
June 12th, 2008 at 5:46 pm
Its story between mother and daughters relationship.
Very touchy story
Congrats khush
You are very impressive storyteller
Good luck for the future
June 12th, 2008 at 5:50 pm
@rocky
none can ignore this little bud..:)
none will.
June 12th, 2008 at 6:46 pm
a must read story…truely heart touching!
June 12th, 2008 at 6:51 pm
an amazing stuff…..i didnt even winked till last word……u cant afford to miss it.
June 13th, 2008 at 4:29 am
i’m sure it’s fictitious,
A typical bollywood story.
June 13th, 2008 at 10:09 am
@DEB
it might be fictitious but it seems mr deb u have been unable to get the essence of this story.delving in one’s figments of imagination is not worthless until it’s not for any good motive.the author has tried evry possible effort to infuse that spirit and that is what she should be applauded for and not criticised.
June 13th, 2008 at 10:17 am
@ Deb and all who thinks its a melo drama and fiction
It is not a fiction, it is a true story and calling it as a ficion doesn’t matter to me because as far as I am concerned, I am more interested into the subject matter and not into the way it has been potrayed.,,
The subject matter of this story is the misunderstanding and what we see is not always true.. we must not hurt anyones feelings otherwise later we don’t get chance to make it up but to repent forever..
we should think with our minds and must not hurt our parents in any case…things happen in reality,,,,some people tell their things through fictitious characters and some tell their own tale…
People should understand this thing that parents are the only assest with us who have given us life and so, in any way they must not be treated as a stranger and they are like God, a single pain given to tem is a pain given to God,,,,,,no matter how they treat us,,,,we should always respect them because they have given us life….
My sole aim here is to tell the people that hurting your mom means hurting God and you will not get the time to repent when in actual you want to say sorry mom and ” I love you Ma”
We all knowingly and unknowingly hurt our parents, and we don’t even realise tehir situation and how they have felt.. I am not an exception, I have also many time knowingly and unknowingly have hurt my parents,,, and now I am far from them and I miss that feel of touch and love, care that I used to get when I was with them,,, but at that time I used to consider them as my biggest enemy,,,,but now I realises that what they are for me….
Hope I am able to prove my point…
Thankx..
June 13th, 2008 at 10:23 am
@ Pramod
Thnkx for your support but I am neither asking for any applaud,nor I am afraid of any critism,,,but the main point is people should understand what I tried to say in the story,,,,
thankx anyways
June 13th, 2008 at 10:41 am
the story related to basic life.i think in evry ones life the momemt come wen they hurt thier parent knowingly or unknowingly wen they didnt meet thier expectation frm thier parent.this story tell us v must take care bout parent n love ones.one thing more thate bollywood story mostly based on real life stories as well as imagination.so y to compare with bollywood.at my point of view its realy gud 1 motivating story.
June 13th, 2008 at 10:52 am
i totally agree with miss/mrs dipti.the only reason this story could be ignored is ignorance of the most important people in on’e lives i.e parents which is next to commiting a heinous crime.now a days worls seems to be infested of so many evils that at least taking care could be sort of a remorse and we shouldn’t let it go off our hands
June 13th, 2008 at 11:41 am
Title completely correlates with the story as author of the story realizes her fault when there was really no time to repent. Mother-daughter relationship as portrayed here is a shocking reality today. Most of girls hate their mother because they stop them from doing ‘wrong’. But a question rises in the mind that why mother didn’t tell her reality to bring her to right path. She should have tried to cut this communication gap. Most of the problems are due to this only. Had mother talked to her, daughter wouldn’t have been at remorse. But it’s a heart touching story.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:03 pm
@ Anubha,,
Thnks for the comment and the question that has come up in your mind is quite logical, but the thing is there are many answers that requires some maturity to grasp and understand..there is a particular stage to understand cetain things… like, if mother would have told her at that point pf time, then she would have not understood because she was just 6, but when she grew up she didn’t want ask anything because she had that feeling in her heart that mother has killed her brother and she went with someone else that night,,,and she even didn’t want to listen anything..
Children, if not answered and explained or taught at certain stage than they become quite rude, agressive and they will not listen of that person whome they have seen in the situation that they should have not seen….and the situation can be any…..So, this is the reason why mother didn’t tell her daughter and once daughter asked she turned mute because she knew that now she will not understand….it’s too late,,,
thnks
June 13th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
we should not give any space to any type of misunderstanding and must resolve on time.. if we stay far and let the misunderstanding boom then it will turn into an impediment, which will destroy the relationship and later when we confront the reality we are left with nothing but to repent….
June 13th, 2008 at 12:29 pm
above all we can not under estimate the efforts of all the contestants no doubt they have done a wonderful job but the content of this story was somewhat that made me feel a bit biased towards this story.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
@ Promod,
I really wanted to bring this thing infront of everyone, because its not only we who suffer and feel repent at last,,,but think about those parents they become the victim of our misunderstanding and rude behaviour, we forgot each and everything done by them for us…
June 13th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
awesome story ..really heart touching…felt like reading it several times ..it really rocks [:)]
June 13th, 2008 at 2:16 pm
@ Nikhil
Thanks
June 13th, 2008 at 3:55 pm
The story is very touching, hats off to the writer.
This is 1st story which i read here n it made me realise what i was missing.
This site is a gud platform for young writer, like Kushboo, who have immense talent but no stage to perform.
No wonder if the writer can give some master piece if she continues writing like this.
Good Luck.
June 13th, 2008 at 4:29 pm
Thanks Rajeev..
June 13th, 2008 at 4:38 pm
@rjeev
it’s vry tragic2 see d child behaviour 2wards their parents, who hav bought thm up and at d end of d day thy behave soo rudly wid thieir parents and brings tears 2 thir eyes,,, its pathetic,, v hv 2 think sumthin, where is tht culture gne whn v used 2 respect our parents n lovd thm. time is surly chnging..does sny1 hv ans 2 this quest, tht where r v moving now?
June 13th, 2008 at 5:06 pm
Hey K H U S H !!!
such a heart touching and awesome story!!!…….
I appreciate & clap for your effort…..
June 13th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
luk nitin to undrstnd our parents is wat v really need bt they must also undrstnd wat ur child want n they do buddy bt sometimes child also wanna knw so parents must also tell thm the truth this was misundrstnding btw mom and her daugther cos mother hide truth frm her child bt her her own health v must undrstnd that these are our children n if v ll nt tell thm truth thn if suddenly truth ll ouccr in frnt of child they will nt b able to grab it so in each n evry relations transperancy is must
mother loves her daughter bt did she evr shown her love parctically to her daughter
June 13th, 2008 at 6:15 pm
yeah dear bt v r there children v have lots of queries in our mind n mom is one person on this earth who undrstnd der children evn wen child didnt uttr a single wrds so i thnk in story mother need to answer her child question
June 13th, 2008 at 6:18 pm
@ Apar
Transperancy is very important in any relationship but as I told earlier here, that some things are bound to be told at right time and right place. And mother daughter relationship is like a friend, which needs the fragrance of flower to make it more joyful….
thanks
June 14th, 2008 at 9:53 am
Nice One !
June 14th, 2008 at 10:04 am
@ Azriel, Azad and Devashish
thnks all…
June 14th, 2008 at 10:05 am
Nice way of putting such a complex but relevant concept..
June 14th, 2008 at 10:08 am
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khush Says:
we should not give any space to any type of misunderstanding and must resolve on time.. if we stay far and let the misunderstanding boom then it will turn into an impediment, which will destroy the relationship and later when we confront the reality we are left with nothing but to repent….
…………………..
The feelings of the author were really touching, but for me her comment/suggestion (mentioned above) was more important than her feelings. So readers, try to understand the moral of the story !!!!!!
Keep Smiling !!!!!!!!!!
—- Pankaj Pandey
June 14th, 2008 at 10:12 am
@pankaj
thnks pankaj, that is what I tried to say in the above story…
June 14th, 2008 at 10:25 am
@ Khush !!!!!
Thats right ! People generally forget the story/feelings, but they tend to remember the “moral of the story” !!!! [:)]
June 14th, 2008 at 10:51 am
@pankaj
ya bro,,ppl 4gt d story n d feeling bt thy remem d moral, i tell u , i went to the old age home,, our institue took us thr nd old ppl thr r so cring n unki aankhon se lag raha tha tht thy need lov n care,,whr r u moving? will our childrn will also do d same? how will repent thn we or our parnts?
June 14th, 2008 at 11:10 am
@ Nitin and Pankaj
listen to one thing, I also went to one of the old age homes in Meerut,we went there with some fruits and blankets. I went there 3 years back and when I met with those old people they all became so happy and cried.
My friends and I talk to them and listen to there stories, they all had ONE thing to say ,,,,,All stories are almost same and taht is ,,,” there children lived abroad and they don’t have anyone to look after them so they have dumped them to this old age homes…” but there were many cases were like because of their daughter in law’s interferences their son has thrown them to this hell. Old age home give assistance to old people but it is like hell only…
when they met us they became so happy and missed their children…I can’t tell you the tragic situation I felt there…..they all were so good…My next article/story would be dedicated to those old people who are living their life like hell after having children settled abroad… :X
June 14th, 2008 at 11:30 am
a very touching story.eudc dive deep into the heart of person rteading it. and wud remind each of some related phase of life.
June 14th, 2008 at 11:36 am
I appreciate your next topic.It is a major concern and its great to come up with such a relevant issue.
Good work
Keep it up.
June 14th, 2008 at 11:44 am
thnks Rani….I would love to write up on the old age people ad their stories by my experience that I have gathered till date…
June 14th, 2008 at 11:57 am
Simply marvelous! Khushbu
keep penning and keep inspiring us like that!
Rohit yog
June 14th, 2008 at 12:09 pm
@ Rohit
thnks Rohit..
June 14th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
its a very heart touching story…full of emotions dat really made drops of tears cme out of my eyes..!!
d story talks abt a comlex relationship of a child wid his parents…it perfectly showed how complex a relationship can become if it is not handled properly…
i believe it was d fault of d daughter as well as the mother n dats y their relation such a critcal stage..
d daughter could ve tried to find d reason for her hatred twrds her mother n at d same time d mthr could ve tried to tel her d truth at an apporpriate time..!!
all in all i must say- good job done by the author..!!!
June 14th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
donn know what can i say on this
lost 4 words actually
its beautiful
i really got lost into my thoughts after reading this
June 14th, 2008 at 12:15 pm
@ Ankit
Yes, excatly, the things should be told at the right place at the right time otherwise it will create more problems….thnks,,,
@mouli
thnks girl…
June 14th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
@ NITIN
[red]ya bro,,ppl 4gt d story n d feeling bt thy remem d moral, i tell u , i went to the old age home,, our institue took us thr nd old ppl thr r so cring n unki aankhon se lag raha tha tht thy need lov n care,,whr r u moving? will our childrn will also do d same? how will repent thn we or our parnts?[/red]
Hey Nitin whom do u want to blame
love and care is a must for everyone old or young
ur saying u have seen old people crying due to lack of love and care
but there are many children who cry becoz of the same reason due to lack of love and care from their parents
But whom do we blame
Parents who work hard day and night in an effort to provide the best for their children
or the children who after getting a job
strive to provide the same for their own children
BAS PYAAR SE KUCH NAHI HOTHA DOST
(FINANCIAL SECURITY is a must)
June 14th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
@ Rocky
you know what all we need..We need time for each other, we are so busy in our own lives taht we forget about our relationships and don’t get time to talk to our parents also. I will not go far, even I don’t spare 10 mintues in 24 hours to talk to my mom and dad se baat kiye hue to week nikal jata hai..
It is only WE who are careless and show our ignorance towards our parents. we forget that what our responsibilities are towards them.. Parents chahe kaise bhi ho afterall they are parents and parents are never BAD….they are GOD, and if we make them cry then undoubtdly we will getthe same in future from our children..
You are right pyar se kuch nahi hota financial security is also necessary, but see in the race of earning more and more where are we moving?????…
Hope you will get an answer soon,,,when you will become fatherm and grow old….money is important to live life but it is not everything…
June 14th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
“It is only WE who are careless and show our ignorance towards our parents.”
@khuush
dont u think that most of the parents are also ignorant
towards their children huh
June 14th, 2008 at 1:04 pm
@ Rocky
yes, they are but that doesnt mean we also show our attitude towards them, if they are busy then it is only because tehy are working for us… everyone is not perfect we must understand this and should cooperate with our parents and move with them for a better relation…
June 14th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
oh oh oh oh cmon yaar
if parents (old) cant understand the problems of their children (working, young just started their married lives and their own careers)
how can u expect underage (minors)children to understand the problems of their parents(working for them)
and let me tell u this isn’t about attitude or any ego problems
its just that they are forced to do such things
a child always loves his parents and a parent always cares for his/her children
June 14th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
i beg to disagree…..parents are the one to bring their children to such an status, caring throughout their life.n when the turn of kids comes into picture….parents gets neglected.parents should always be first in the priority list of their children
June 14th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
@ Rocky
its not parents who don’t understand but its the children who don’t understand tehir parents most of teh times..Parents can’t do anything wrong to their childrena nd whatever they think and do ,,,will do for teh good of their child….Don’t force me to set u abd give examples of my own
June 14th, 2008 at 1:38 pm
Parents can’t do anything wrong to their children and whatever they think and do
@khuush
Tu aise bol rahi as if children want to do wrong to their parents
People are forced to do such things not by choice (parents ko old age home rakhana and all)
June 14th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
@ Rocky
Exctly, parent don’t want to do anything wrong to their children and its only and only children who don’t understand and in 98% cases children don’t understand their parents. I have seen many parents who have worked for tehir children so hard and when they grow old they don’t have anyone to look after them, in fact children settle abroad and at other places for tehir lucrative jobs and leave tehir parents behind to the Hell named OLD AGE HOMES……
there is no doubt that these homes take care of teh old people but they cannot fulfil the need of the old people…the need of ” LOVE & CARE”
June 14th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
parents should always be first in the priority list of their children
@RANI
BUT i think there is also this saying
“FAMILY COMES FIRST”
family konsa family
mom dad bros and sis
ya
Husband, wife, daughters and sons
KIS KO FIRST PREFERENCE DENA CHAHIYE ????
June 14th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
@ Rani
Yes, you are rigt, parents should come first in everything the child do… :d
June 14th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
@khuush
hey hey
tell u what most of the parents
(middle class, i have no idea about the rich)
want their children to settle abroad and earn only dollar salaries
again whom do u blame
June 14th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
@ Rocky
If I am not mistaken then parents also comes in the family who are the head of teh family. If you behave rudely with your parents and make tehir fun infront of other or throw them out of your house, hurt them ,,,then do you think you will be able to live a healthy life with your children? will your children let you stay in the house when you grow old? No tehy won’t..because GOD is there and we have to pay for the sins we do in our life in this life itself,, and Of course family comes first but family consist of Father, Mother, and Children,,,not only children ….
June 14th, 2008 at 2:07 pm
@rocky
i think i was explicit enough. i mean “parents”. parents are the part of the family…family includes from ur parents to u bieng a parent
June 14th, 2008 at 2:11 pm
@ Rocky
Hey Hey !!
See, here you clarify yourself, if they want their children to go abroad and earn dollars than it is only and only for their good will and good future, they sacrifice their love by sending them abroad..you cannot just b;ame parents for that,,,,it is the responsibility of the children to take care of tehir parents at their old age…
June 14th, 2008 at 2:15 pm
most of the parents
(middle class, i have no idea about the rich)
want their children to settle abroad and earn only dollar salaries
again whom do u blame
@ rocky
well i believe dat parents want their children 2 do well..its nthng to do abt they wantng dem to settle abroad. they live in their own country or abroad..hardly matters..wat maters is dey r dng gud..n dat is wat parents want…but here cms d responsibilty of d children..as a child i dnt want to go abroad leaving my parents behind..if i’ll go i’ll tke dem wid me..
cmmn man!! u cant do nythning more than wat dey ve done for u…!!
June 14th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
hey kush…..i nice attempt bring a forum for knowing the view of the youth regarding the concept of family.
June 14th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
why ru involving GOD into this
PARENTS work hard for their children and in return children throws them into old age homes (god se kya lena dena)
“we have to pay for the sins ”
a person who gets caught in between his own parents and his own family
(family boletho unka spouse and unke betta betti)
and who is forced to make a harsh decision of ignoring his parents should be shown some mercy not criticized
June 14th, 2008 at 2:23 pm
@ Ankit
YEs, we cannot do anything more in the comparison what they have done for for us. what we can do is, we can only make their future secure and happy by giving them the love they need at that stage…
Are you aware of the death and unprdicted deaths taht are taking place in NCR’s and other places of teh world,, childen leave their parents behind to force them live a life which is full of threat, insecure, and dull….So many murder cases are taking place of old coulples and none of the children are bothered about it,, in fact what we give them???? nothing but tears and death…
June 14th, 2008 at 2:45 pm
@ Rani
thnks Rani,
June 14th, 2008 at 3:06 pm
this is a real picture of todays generation…good work khush,,keepp it up….!!
June 14th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
@ khush
yes u r rite….n dis an issue of concern…i mean d children should b more responsible towards their parents..n should understand their duties..!!!
June 14th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
@ Anshu
Thanks for the comment…
June 14th, 2008 at 3:31 pm
@ Ankit
If we all understand our duties towards our life and parents thn the number of old spouse murders and suicides by the old spouse that are taking place in the country world-wide, will be surely reduced to a great extent…..
June 14th, 2008 at 3:46 pm
no need of thanks i like your your artical from the depth of my heart.
June 14th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
wht u think khush , are we not doing anything towards our parents ? and y children snd their parents to old age home, they dont have that much of space in their house to keep their parenst?
June 14th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
well i guess its more to deal with space in ur heart( 4 ur parents) rather than space in their home..!!
June 14th, 2008 at 5:55 pm
@ Ankit
Exaclty….
June 14th, 2008 at 6:02 pm
ya!!!………..
becoz parents can afford and adjust with their 3 or more child in one or two room house, but their 3-4 children cant afford and have problem to adjust with the only two person- their own parents!!!!
June 14th, 2008 at 6:09 pm
well said anshu…….do u ever remember ur parents sending u to orphanage if ever u hd less space at home.take this hypothetical situation and thick about the action of ur parents in the similar situation,
June 14th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
@ siddhesh
This is the main problem that most of the parents are facing today. My neighbours says that looking at the condition of todays generation we are not hoping anything from our children, because they knew that trends are changing so do people. they are making themselves so strong so that they can take care of tehmselves in their future…Unty works on the shop and uncle is still working at the age of 50 in canteen..
I am not saying that everyone is like that but the mentality of the children are changing with time and they are not at all guilty in keeping their parents in old age homes….girls talk to their mother rudely and comment a lot!! I have confronted such situations,,, it hurts me, when I see these things…
June 14th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
a child who has not been able to make some space for parents in their house are the most worthless kids. they probably prove all labour of their parents worthless in bringing up such a kid.
June 14th, 2008 at 6:25 pm
@ khush!!!!
This is right. The mentality of most of young generaton children changed with their education, films and fashions, etc; and they feel that they have all knowledge to go ahead and live while they are in front of or in comparison of their parents. like Many girls do not want to accept any guidences or suggestions on topic of fashion from their parents.
June 14th, 2008 at 6:41 pm
@ siddhesh
Yes, fashion changes and the mentallity is also changing with time. but parents should make the boundation of values so strong that children won’t even think of doing anything wrong to their parents, one thing that people should keep in mind taht ” what we sow today we will reap tomorrow.” so the things should be made strong enough from the starting only…
June 14th, 2008 at 8:44 pm
well, well, well, d responsibilty of d children is more and the vise versa 2 mke d family bond more stronger
thts all wht i want2say at d end 
June 14th, 2008 at 8:51 pm
A beautiful story has been presented by the author, It is nicely crafted and I want to add one thing here what Nithin has said, Definately both the sides need to understand their responsibilities but nevertheless, the big responsibility is on the parents to give tehir children the moral values at the time when they needed the most. If it would have been given then no problem will be there.
June 14th, 2008 at 9:04 pm
in 1 of the threads i found sm1 (was that apar?) mention that the relation b/w a mother n a daughter should be transparent. it indeed should be… but in this case it doesnt apply.. for 1 simple reason.. the daughter was adopted. most parents are apprehensive of letting their adopted children know that they are adopted… so i find it very logical
June 14th, 2008 at 9:18 pm
@ Sudeshana
well, again stateda logical but not too logical
parents whn adopt any child thy wont tell thir child that thy are adopted, thy hid this cozz thy dont want their child to feel apart from them, so, mom shud hve told evrything to her daughter. so tat their relationship wud have bin transparent only.
June 14th, 2008 at 9:28 pm
@ sudeshana and nitin
you see dear,many times parents dont tell their child but other people interefere and they tell, but it is better that if the child is adopted then parents should tell tehir child, if they get to know from somewhere else they will feel more bad in comparison to their parents telling
June 15th, 2008 at 4:54 am
Adoption is not matter in between relation. but the good and healthy mental relation based on only trust and transparency. if parents taught this simple funda to their child, i think that the child not want more than that.
June 15th, 2008 at 5:39 am
@ Siddhesh
I think you are rite siddhesh, some solid base is very important to make the healthy relationship..
June 15th, 2008 at 6:27 am
@rumi
i agree wid u…parents should tell demselvs to their adopted child that he/she is adopted…!!!
but dey should do at an appropriate time…
@sudesh
yes a solid base is very necessary for a healthy realation b/w parents and their children…
June 15th, 2008 at 6:48 am
@ all
I am happy that people are thinking and discussing on this issue, it is a matter of fact that more than 60% children’s behaviour towards their parents are rude. so we must understand that where are we lagging behind, then only we will be able to find some strongest solution to this problem..
June 15th, 2008 at 6:53 am
@ankit
I am Siddhesh……..not “@sudesh” but thanx for your comment!!!!
@all
this solid base come, if every parents developed a relation of understanding with their children, in which children can explore their feelings without any guilty or with any ego at each stage of life in front of their parents…..
and by this way children can also understand feelings of parents by interacting with each other and can yield a good relationship between them.
June 15th, 2008 at 7:07 am
@ siddhesh
Well Said !!!!
June 15th, 2008 at 7:56 am
@ every1…
i never said that it’s not right to tell an adopted child abt the fact that he/she is adopted… what i said was that thr was nothing wrong with the plot because many parents end up doing this… (i really cant comment on whether they should or shouldn’t.. depends on the context totally)
June 15th, 2008 at 7:58 am
@ Sudeshna
Wll, you are right sudeshna.
June 15th, 2008 at 8:46 am
it has more to do with the child rearing phenomenon….its all about the values of relationshipn wch the child has imbibed……and the child wud behave accordingly wth parents
its all togethr a secndry matter whthr the kid is adopted one or not….. a child who has understood real meaning of parenthood…..wud respect the parents all the more 4 this noble deed….
June 15th, 2008 at 9:28 am
@Rani!!!!
you are right…..
June 15th, 2008 at 11:23 am
@ Rani and all
You all are correct at your place,but we need many things to make any relation go stronger these things are trust, love, care and support and most of all proper communication,,, then only we will be able to keep any relation for a long time healthy and happy!!!
June 15th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
i told khushi that i wont give her 5 satr at all coz i belive in ……… its like begging BUT i was wrong its really worth giving 10 stars……….
June 15th, 2008 at 1:07 pm
i wouldn’t have any regrets if this post won!!! thankx a lot Miss Kushboo Agarwal
i know ur already angry :p so khush… chill marrrrrrrr
June 15th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Thaks suds
June 15th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
keep it up …….K H U S H !!!
June 15th, 2008 at 2:38 pm
@ All
thanks all for your support and love. I am happy that suds won! she is a very good friend and an excellent writer too. Moreover each problem has its own place and needs attention to be given. Whether it is social, political, financial or issues based on relationship need to be resolve,,, I will keep on writing and looking forward to more platforms like this to get the best outcome of whatever be the issue.. discussion makes the actin happen.. So we must keep on trying our best… Till the right time comes you ppl,,,,,,, Sun Yaaarrr Chill Maarrrrrr
and Admin uncle/unty,,, Keep arranging such competitions.. :d